This week in our Sex Stories ongoing feature series we’re chatting with Lucy* who’s 32-years-old and has been with her partner for a decade. Lucy* and her husband use sex toys to spice up their marriage and she shares their story here…
“I met my husband ten years ago. I was working out in Turkey for a popular tour operator and he was on holiday – we met in a bar one night and exchanged numbers and a couple of nights later slept with each other. At the time, I was in my early twenties and one night stands were common because it was part of the living abroad lifestyle – you definitely didn’t see people. I thought this would be the case again but it most definitely wasn’t – we constantly text and called each other long after he had returned home. It got to the point where he came over to Turkey again for another holiday about six weeks later just to see me.”
“We didn’t see each other again until I eventually flew home a couple of months later, and we lived around 45-minute drive away from each other. I did another season abroad the following year and we would only see each other once every couple of months. I felt that the distance had a major factor in making our relationship solid. We didn’t count on having sex everyday because we couldn’t, but when we did, it made the wait worthwhile.”
“After four years we decided to take the plunge and move in together. We got into sex toys from watching porn together and asking if this was something that we wanted to try out. We use Love Honey as beginner toys are inexpensive so that if it wasn’t something we liked, it wasn’t a lot of money lost. Sometimes sex is just a slight bit of foreplay and then penetrative sex. Other times it includes some dress up, a butt plug, cock ring, toys and nipple clamps.”
“We’ve always been quite sexual with each other but it has got to the point where we now have sex once every one or two weeks. Work, children, illness, grief has got in the way for the past few years but we do always make time for each other even if it’s not as frequent. My husband knows exactly what I like and what I don’t like and we have always feel a lot closer after having sex.”
“I’ve always been a squirter but possibly in the past 18 months, it has become a lot more intense. I don’t know why, I don’t know if I feel I have more control over it or if me and my husband have realised how to ‘trigger’ it but it’s been something that we are very happy about.”
“I masturbate too – it’s secretive so I tend to do it in the bathroom or in my home office. I use both hands or toys and I keep a mini vibrator in my drawer.”
“This relationship was just so different to previous ones, even right from the start. We obviously couldn’t keep our hands off each other but we also definitely didn’t need it to constantly validate our relationship. We have nights where it’s just making love and we have nights where we try and explore. We had a baby together two years ago and always thought if I gained weight from having a baby, then he would be unattracted to me but that doesn’t seem to be the case.”
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